Women in White at SOTU

Updated: Mar 10, 2019

As a woman who has been in the workforce since 1969, I am saddened by the disrespectful show that the "women in white" displayed at the State of the Union address by President Trump, last night.

Women have worked hard over the years to gain some grain of respect and trust in the workplace, enduring, at times sexual innuendos, overtures, expectations and outright attacks, just to keep a decent paying job.  We suffered through the disrespect of being a woman in a "man's job", while we worked hard to prove we could do it just as good as they could.  We earned the respect at a great cost at times, but we opened up the field in many areas for women by proving we could do it just as well or even better that a male counterpart.

One saying that has stuck with me is that we had to do twice the work of men to receive half the credit.  I worked as an EMT on the ambulance once for a male Director, doing my job just like he did.  When he resigned, he recommended me for the job.  The first question I was asked by the all male council was, "How are you going to be able to lift a patient?"  My answer, "Just like he did...with a partner on the other side."  I was hired and gained the respect of several at the meeting.  So, I was the FIRST female EMT-1 Ambulance Director in the State, or so I was told. 

We have broken through the world of finance, as well.  I went to my bank one time to ask for a small loan to start up a small company.  The bank had been financing my husband and our company for years.  I had been in there with him many times when he just had to go in and sign the papers after calling on the phone to say he had bought something.  I paid the bills.  I deposited the money.  I set up the accounts,  I was co-owner of the business.  I was 50% owner by the law of Community Property.  BUT I had to get a lecture by the loan officer and provide a business plan and show how I was going to pay for it.  That is understandable by itself and a first time loan, NOT with 20 years of experience and an excellent credit record (since I was 16) and legally, I retained half of the credit my husband had, and my credit history was better than his.  I should have been able to pick up the phone and tell the loan officer that I had purchased equipment for my new business and ask when he wanted me to come in and sign the papers.  So when he asked me if my husband was going to co-sign the note, I told him where he could get off my world.